It happens to the best of us. Maybe one bad day happened and it snowballed into a bad week...and then we find ourselves STUCK.Just stuck in the muck of a bad funk.
For me, it doesn't even have to be a bad day. Anxious Annie over here, so it could be the smallest thing I'm having anxiety about, that I allow to consume me and my thoughts. I'm a planner, so flying by the seat of my pants isn't exactly my best skill.
Now, this the part where you're probably expecting me to tell you to "Cheer up buttercup!" but lets be real. Sometimes when your in the funk, you just need to FEEL IT for a hott minute. AND THAT'S OK. (Side note : Have ya'll ever seen the Dane Cook skit where he talks about watching yourself cry in the mirror and how it makes you cry harder? It's the most hilarious thing ever- google it and enjoy!)
Now, It's ok to cry and throw that pity party BUT keep this party REAL SHORT, like a drop-in party you don't want to go to, kind of short.
I think fighting the funk, by feeling it, helps you take inventory of WHY you're there in the first place and really,get out of it sooner. Nobody likes the feeling of being stuck in a rut, but once you truly recognize it in all its BLAH-NESS, usually thats when some kind of breakthrough happens.
Once I feel the funk, here are a couple things that really help me fight my way out of it :
1. GRATITUDE & GRACE
Ya'll know by now that I am a gratitude, "best start is with a greatful heart, thank ya Jesus" WARRIOR. Honestly, even on my worst of days just learning to look around and find one thing to be grateful and thank the good Lord for, has changed my life immensely and in the most amazing way. It really helps me find positive perspective when I'm down in the dumps and keeps me grounded in grace.
2."OH YEAH,YOU DID THAT, GIRL!" MOMENTS
You know those times you look back at and you're all " HOLY COW- I CAN'T BELIEVE I DID THAT/SURVIVED THAT!" I love these memories and re-visit them often, when I'm feeling the funk. For example: Surviving the first months with Coco when I was extremely not well with thyroid issues.Or that time when I was a 21 yr old wine rep and was told I was doing a small tasting,only to be informed with an hours notice, that I had to host a wine dinner at a fancy country club as the keynote speaker, for 100+ people and the head wine importer.... I almost crapped my spanx ( que anxious Annie x1000), but I'll be danged if it didn't go off without a hitch! Those may not seem like "wow" moments,but personally, they're the times I look back on and think" Dang! If I pulled through that, I GOT THIS!"
So find those moments & memories for yourself and re-visit them often, it'll bring back some bad-ass feel goods and make you want to be productive and fight the funk even harder!
3.LAUGH AT YOURSELF- ALOT.
Sometimes I just have to sit back and laugh.Find the humor in the chaos aka the kids,around me. Or if I've made a mountain out of a mole hill, laugh at how ridiculous I'm being. I promise there's a little humor in every situation,if you can't find it, call or hang out with the person that you know will- I promise, a good laugh goes a long way.
Before I sign off here, I want to encourage you that if the funk is feeling like to much or your struggling to fight it on your own, don't EVER be ashamed or afraid to ask for help.Professional, friend, family, ( or me!) reach out and do whatever you need to do to be the best you!